Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Mary J. Blige Opens Up About Being Molested

Mary J. Blige reveals her inner most secret on VH1 Behind the Music.

Mary J. Blige is a happily married Grammy winner now, but things haven't come easy for the 40-year-old singer-songwriter.

In an episode of Behind the Music that aired Sunday on VH1, Blige opens up about her struggle with alcoholism and the childhood molestation that haunted her for years.

"When I was five years old I was molested," she says. "I remember feeling, literally, right before it happened, I just could not believe that this person was going to do this to me. That thing followed me all my life. The shame of thinking my molestation was my fault. It led me to believe I wasn't worth anything."

Blige also speaks out about her struggle with alcoholism. "It was bigger than me, and it was definitely going to kill me. So I was like, this is it, and let's go. I remember sitting on my bed. I swear, I don't know what death feels like, but I felt like my spirit was trying to leave my body.

The Rock of Ages star says it was her husband, Kendu Isaacs, who inspired her to get sober. "I stopped drinking," she says. "It was will power. It was prayer. It was really hard. But, I care so much about him, I didn't want to be just this alcoholic burden on him. He doesn't deserve for me to be some, you know, slum-bucket alcoholic, and so I took responsibility and I cleaned up, as much as I could. But it was hard."
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Anonymous said...

Anyone who has been molested knows it follows you until you confront the person and the pain. Her pain is what caused her dependency on alcohol and other drugs.

Mental and physical abuse plays a role in dependency. Hell her situation is no different then Missy Elliot or mine for that matter.

It is always big news when celebrities come out and tell their story.

It is called hunt down the individual who did this too you and beat their ass! I did! It was not pretty once I got done.

Anonymous said...

I was molested but I don't blame myself. I never confronted the person but I don't reserve hate for them either. I know the day will come when it tears their soul apart and God punishes them. Because of it I do try to secure the safety of all the children around me though. And I've never told anyone. You can let the past dictate your future or you can do the best you can to move on.

bogart4017 said...

There is a special place reserved in Hell for all child molesters.

Anonymous said...


I actually told my father in 2009. He was devastated. He actually asked me why i hated my cousin so much. It is best to share your story because it could of happened to another family member.

I protected my daughter and she is 18 now. My molestation caused a lot of depression which eventually lead to Manic Depression. I was unaware that molestation, mental, physical is derived from abuse.

My mother was molested when she was young so she pretty much warned be about the touching. Unfortunately I was unable to tell her she passed.

Like you I don't blame no one and i have moved on. I jumped on him without knowing if that makes since. He said something and I snapped and attacked him.

Any way take care because i am fine as well as you. I stopped giving this incident power. Moving on eventually heals all wounds.

Anonymous said...

I was raped by my brother from age 9, til I was 12 and I will take that secret to my grave. I will never tell my mother that, she loves her kids so much and some things are better left unsaid.

I believe 98% of women have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime.

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